3 Key Principles to Get the Most Out of Couples Counseling
Carlos Durana Ph.D., M.Ac. offers counseling and therapy in Reston, Virginia, Washington, DC, and Bethesda, Maryland.
When partners attend couples counseling Bethesda MD, they have to be willing to make changes, face difficult truths and put in the work during and in between sessions to ensure they get the most of the experience. Many individuals go into couples counseling under the pretense that they have done nothing wrong and all the faults and issues lie with their partner. Here are a few important things to keep in mind to ensure you don’t fall into this trap and are able to get the most out of your experience.
Attitude is Important
Couples who are attending counseling are generally trying to improve their relationship. In order for changes to be possible, both partners will need to start with a good attitude. When you have a positive attitude when attending counseling, you are more focused on making the necessary changes to your relationship rather than focusing on changing your partner. This open mindset will allow you to see your relationship at a deeper level and will make it easier to see the changes that you need to make to be a better partner and nurture a healthier relationship.
Focus on Yourself
Counseling is most effective when you set more goals for yourself than for your partner. It is natural to react to unmet expectations with a pointed finger. In fact, one of the hardest parts of counseling is learning how to change your own impulses. This includes how you think about a situation, how you feel about it, and how you respond. You can’t change your partner and they can’t change you, therefore, you are going to need to influence each other for good and work toward making the necessary changes in your own lives.
Ask the Tough Questions
During counseling, it is important that you ask the tough questions about yourself, your partner, and your relationship. This will help to uncover any underlying issues and causes that may be prohibiting you from having the relationship that you need and want. These tough questions can include anything, including:
In disagreements, do you believe that your partner is entitled to their own opinion or is your opinion the only one that matters?
When experiencing pressure during your relationship, do you have the courage to see what your partner expects from the experience? Do you have the courage to express your expectations during these times as well?
Can/do you expect your partner to treat you better than you treat them?
Asking the tough questions can help you get to know your partner better and understand the real issues. If you think you can benefit from couples counseling Bethesda MD, then contact the office of Dr. Durana at A Caring Approach.